If you would like to build your self-esteem, remember to love yourself
daily.
Many people don’t practice building self-esteem daily
because they don’t realize that it’s something that they can learn to
do, no matter what experiences they have had in life.
The key to starting the process is to recognize that self-esteem,
self-love, self-worth—whatever you feel drawn to calling it—is a seed that
grows if you water it.
How do you begin to grow your
self-esteem? You start by recognizing that you deserve to be loved. You deserve
to love yourself.
Sounds like such a simple thing to do, right?
The truth is: one of the
things we struggle with the most in life is being true to ourselves.
When we have been hurt in the past, we sometimes hide parts of ourselves so we
can protect ourselves from being hurt again.
One of the reasons I talk
about loving
yourself is that when we practice loving ourselves, we develop
a certain trust that brings us closer to being true to ourselves.
For some of us, this is easier said than done. If you’re finding that
you’re saying or doing things just to appease others, then you’re denying your
soul’s purpose.
You’re denying yourself happiness.
I encourage you to practice loving yourself often, because it’s the
best way to get closer to who you are.
Begin to Trust Yourself
Many times we find that we’re unsure of ourselves. We constantly
second-guess our decisions, or we make them based on others around us. Why
are we so willing to trust others, but not ourselves?
You are a unique, beautiful soul.
It can be difficult to not suppress
your true self in a world that is so quick to judge or compare you to others.
We learn from our culture or parents, and we start to judge ourselves
constantly, because that’s what we’re taught.
That is no way to live a happy and loving life. You’ll constantly be
chasing something that is untrue to your Divine being.
The Benefits of Being True to Yourself
There is no wrong way or right way
to build self-esteem. Your inner child or inner compass is there to guide you.
Trust it. Love yourself and always be true to the best version of
yourself.
Being true to your self is a constant
decision that we make daily.
And don’t think that just because you made a mistake you’re a failure.
Life is a learning experience. Sometimes we make decisions true to us,
and sometimes we don’t. It’s OK because we learn.
We are not defined by the mistakes
we make. Allow yourself to let go of your negative self-talk, and love
yourself.
When you do this, you will noticed many powerful shifts inside of you,
such as:
1.
Compassion
When we love ourselves in each
situation, we learn to be the best version of ourselves. We become more
compassionate towards ourselves, and we stop judging ourselves based on past
decisions or actions. We learn from our mistakes, and move on to the next
moment. When we are compassionate with ourselves and others, it’s easier to
adapt to changes in our life and to bounce back from hardship faster.
2.
Bravery
Being your true self moment
after moment makes you courageous and strong. When challenges or anxieties
mount, you might feel the pressure, but you face them with grace, because you
learn that you can count on yourself—your true self—to do your best, whether
you fail or succeed!
3. Comfort
When we express our true self we become
comfortable in our skin and a weight is lifted off our shoulders. Self-berating
diminishes, and with time, we’re less worried about the future. We are
comfortable in the present, and we no longer carry the past around with
us.
We pay attention to the present, and it brings us comfort to be here—no
matter where we are.
4. Positivity
You’ll notice that when you
practice trusting your inner voice that your relationships with others will
change. You’ll start surrounding yourself with people who help you or encourage
you to be yourself. You will not spend so much time around people who drain
your energy, and you’ll gravitate towards others who inspire the best in you.
5.
We Get Our Needs Met
We in turn live a happy,
fulfilling life. We get our needs met because we trust what we’re doing each
day in each moment. We know that we deserve to be happy, and we have hope, and
the belief in the value of pursuing our dreams.
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Habits for Building Self-Esteem
There are many ways to help you
build self-esteem along your journey to being your true self. Here are 3 of my
favorite daily tools for loving yourself:
1. Keep a journal.
Write down your experiences, how you felt about them and whether you
felt you dealt with it in way that aligned with your inner voice. If you felt
upset toward someone, did you confront them or hide it? The more you write down
and notice when you’re doing what’s best for you, the more you get close to
expressing your true being more often.
2. Practice Meditation.
There is no better way than to relax, breathe and rest your thoughts.
This is a great time to practice affirmations and reflect on what you want for
your life.
Below I share a meditation for increasing your self-love and self-worth.
Self-esteem can become a habit when you practice loving yourself every
day.
3. Practice Mirror Work or
Tapping.
Looking into your eyes and expressing your true feelings is a great way
to discover your underlying fears and finally face them with compassion.
Many people think that affirmations are my most powerful tool,
and yes, affirmations are powerful, but the truth is, that affirmations are
most powerful when combined with tapping or mirror work. My friend Robert
Holden, Ph.D. helped me create a free video series about how to do mirror work.
You can watch the free series here.
A Meditation
for Building Self Esteem
No person, place, or thing has any power over me unless I give it, for I
am the only thinker in my mind.
I have immense freedom in that I can choose what to think.
I can choose to see life in positive ways instead of complaining or
being mad at myself or other people.
Complaining about what I do not have is one way to handle a situation,
but it does not change anything.
When I love myself and find myself in the midst of a negative situation,
I can say something such as, “I am willing to release the pattern in my
consciousness that contributed to this condition.”
I have made negative choices in the past, but this does not mean that I
am a bad person, nor am I stuck with these negative choices.
I release old judgments and love myself unconditionally.
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