Male Midlife Crisis

The male midlife crisis is often made fun of, but for many men it is a distressing experience.

A midlife crisis can happen when men think they've reached life's halfway stage and feel time is running out.

It's not a medical condition but people going through a midlife crisis can experience anxiety and depression.

The age at which people experience a midlife crisis can vary. It can typically occur anywhere between the age of 35 and 50.

Dr Derek Milne, a clinical psychologist, says: "If I was giving advice on how to cope, I'd suggest telling your GP you're feeling depressed, because depression makes up a significant portion of the midlife crisis." 

Depression can be triggered by a major life change, such as divorce, separation, long-term illness, bereavement or job loss. Sometimes there appears to be no obvious reason.

Symptoms of depression can include:

• low mood lasting two weeks or more
• not getting any enjoyment out of life
• feeling hopeless
• feeling tired or lacking energy
• not being able to concentrate on everyday things like reading the paper or watching television
• sleeping more than usual or being unable to sleep

Get tips on coping with depression.

If you're still feeling down or depressed after a couple of weeks, talk to your GP or call NHS 111.

Other mid-life symptoms

When they reach their late 40s to early 50s, some men experience loss of libido, erectile dysfunction, mood swings and other physical or emotional symptoms.

Read more about the so called male menopause.

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Tony Robbins: Making Change Real #1

I have been to #UPW and heard this man directly. Much of what he covers I have learnt through NLP, but he has encapsulated in a much more compelling way!



I urge you to watch this and let me know if anything he says helps you see things differently

Finding the Place You Belong

BY MADISYN TAYLOR

There will likely be times in your life when your soul evolves more quickly than your circumstances.

There will likely be times in your life when your soul evolves more quickly than your circumstances. Your subconscious mind may be ready to move forward long before you recognize that you are destined to embrace a new way of life. Your soul intuitively understands that changing habitats can be a vital part of the growth process and that there may be one part of you that is eager to move to another home, another state, or another plane of existence. But the ties that bind you to your current mode of being can make moving into this next stage of your life more challenging than it has to be. If you find it difficult to move on, consider that just as people in your life may come and go, your role in others' lives may also be temporary. And many of the conditions that at first seemed favorable served you for a short time. When you are ready to match your situation to your soul, you will find that you feel a new sense of harmony and increasingly connected to the ebb and flow of the universe.

Moving on can be defined in numerous ways. Your forward momentum may take you from your current locale to a place you instinctively know will be more nurturing, comfortable, and spiritually enriching. Once you arrive, your misgivings will vanish, and you will know that you have found a sanctuary. Similarly, subtle changes in your values, goals, or emotional needs can motivate you to distance yourself from one group of people in order to reassociate yourself with individuals that are better able to support you. For example, this could mean moving away from your birth family in order to find your energetic or spiritual family. The route you need to travel may not always be clear; you may feel inspired to change yet be unsure as to why or how. Clarity may come in the form of a question if you are willing to seriously ask yourself where your soul is trying to take you.

In a way, moving from one point to another when you feel strongly driven to do so is a way of bringing your spiritual and earthly energies together. It is a two-step process that involves not only letting go but also reconnecting. You will know you have found your destination, physical or otherwise, when you feel in your heart that you have been reborn into a life that is just the right shape, size, and composition.

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Is There More To Life Than Just Being Happy?

What if you discovered there was something much more fulfilling than just being momentarily happy?

Over the last four decades, Dr John Demartini, human behavior expert, author and international speaker, has helped thousands of people ignite a new flame in their life by focusing on the importance of personal values.

Author of four decades worth of personal development books, Dr John Demartini shares the insights of his 44 years of research, having worked with thousands of couples struggling to find their illusive happiness.

In truth, there is only a balanced form of love. Everything else is a one-sided romantic fantasy, or illusion.

No one around you is committed to making your life fulfilling and amazing every day, that is primarily up to you. But you can find someone who can help you do what fulfills your life and you, them. A fulfilling life will include helping others, and the special one you love most, fulfill what they would love most, which helps them want in turn to help you fulfill what you would love most.

Dr Demartini believes that one of the pillars of stable relationships is understanding each others highest values and how they complement each other.

He says it is essential to know and embrace your personal values and empower all seven primary areas of your life before looking for your loving partner. Just like you are inwardly asking yourself what is in it for me, they are also asking what is in it for them. If you desire to attract a great catch it is reasonable for you to also be a great catch.  Loving mates are magnetized when you are authentic and empowered in as many of the seven areas as possible, that is you are intelligent mentally, achieving vocationally, high earning financially, caring familially, influential socially, well and attractive physically and inspired spiritually.  

By empowering your life you increase the probability of doing something amazing along with someone amazing. 

Learn to love your life. Discover how to be resourceful in your perceptions and actions, then no matter what happens in your life, there is something you can do to achieve something extraordinary from it.

Dr Demartinis relationship equation is based on opening the doorway to self-clarity and empowerment. Instead of worrying about finding fleeting happiness, more wisely ask yourself What are your top three highest values and how can you fulfill them? What would you absolutely love to do in life? What are the highest priority action steps you can take today to achieve this? And when you meet your potential mate ask yourself, What are your mates top three highest values and how can you help them become fulfilled. 

The more you value you, the more the world will value you. The more you love others for who they are the more they will turn into who you love. 

You deserve to live your dreams. Do not disregard your quality of life by undermining the important questions which help illuminate your personal values and allow you to be the greatest and most authentic version of yourself.

You must find out what is important to you, and afterwards see where your partners values align with your own. This is so that you can both feel loved for who you are – not someone elses idea of who you should be.

Your fulfilling will be built upon a foundation of gratitude and true and balanced love which will allow you to achieve true understand of what really makes your relationship last. 

For gratitude is the key that opens up the gateway of the heart and allows love from within to come radiating out.

So count your blessings. This will release the healing power of gratitude and love and help you realize you already have everything you are looking for, all it takes is a little bit of attention and communication.

Dr. John Demartini is a human behaviour specialist, educator, author and the founder of the Demartini Institute.

www.DrDemartini.com

YOU ARE NOT DEPRESSED, STOP IT!

Such good messages, I thought I would share another of his messages  - many people talk about depression, when is fact they are just having a few 'low' days. What do you think?

COMMIT TO VISUALIZATION AND YOUR AFFIRMATIONS

Commit to Visualization and Your Affirmations 
Your visualizations and affirmations should accurately describe the life you want to live. This is your vision. You can design it any way you want. Exercise your creativity and ingenuity. Have fun! As you create a vision of your future and support it with your affirmation, you will begin to see things you never saw before. Here are some other tips to help you program your nonconscious mind with visualizations and affirmations.

Recommit and Refine. You have to keep refining your goals, your business vision and your affirmations. The game never ends. Design your vision and write out your affirmations until they are perfect in your mind. You have to keep recommitting to the process. Every time you set your goals higher, every time you push past the goalposts even further, or set your foot on the path to some new goal or aspiration, you have to recommit to the process of articulating that goal and then imprinting it onto your nonconscious brain.

Complete the Process. Make sure you finish writing your vision statement and affirmations. Are you procrastinating or not completing the work?If you find you haven’t done the work, here’s the question you could pose to yourself: What stories am I telling myself as to why I haven’t done this work? The way you do anything is the way you everything. If you’re dragging your feet, ask yourself: Why? What reason are you giving yourself that you can’t do this? Your habits are forcing you to behave in the same old ways you always have.

Embrace making a change. You can ask yourself other questions such as: How well is my inactivity working for me in my business and my life? Wouldn’t it be nice to make a change? You have nothing to lose but old habits that aren’t working for you—and you have everything to gain.

Commit to the Process. Stay focused and commit to doing the neural reconditioning work day in and day out. Make yourself reminder notes to review where you stand with the process, perhaps at the beginning of every week. Add a statement to your reprogramming routine that addresses your commitment, something along the lines of: I am building on a solid new unconscious foundation to take my success even further.

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By John Assaraf

Creating visualizations is a great way to set your future, as your unconscious mind does not know the difference between real and not real! Let me know how you get on!

MAN vs EARTH

I love the messages this man, Prince EA, puts out...some wisdom from such a young soul!



Let me know what you think?